tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-238197560535024815.post7629211476230097101..comments2023-10-31T05:11:53.443-07:00Comments on Brown Eyed Girl and Money: FrustratedEsmehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08247120027986055381noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-238197560535024815.post-58092380028738696792008-11-21T15:59:00.000-08:002008-11-21T15:59:00.000-08:00I agree with the above commenters.1. Hand the cheq...I agree with the above commenters.<BR/><BR/>1. Hand the cheque to her or talk to her directly. Say "I heard you're going back to school and need help with expenses" or something along those lines.<BR/><BR/>2. Enough money games. Seriously.<BR/><BR/>3. And the whole thing of badgering you to give $20k when she said the expenses were $2000 a month? THat irks me a bit and I can't figure out why right now... maybe it's because you were going to pay the $2k a month anyway, but then she wanted you to "not be cheap" and add on a little extra?<BR/><BR/>I dunno. Am I reading too much into this?FB @ FabulouslyBroke.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12966672580040786485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-238197560535024815.post-76654985884181351562008-11-21T12:47:00.000-08:002008-11-21T12:47:00.000-08:00Ditto, ditto, ditto!!!As somebody else with a huge...Ditto, ditto, ditto!!!<BR/><BR/>As somebody else with a hugely manipulative mom / parents, I could not agree more.<BR/><BR/>At the end of the day, it's none of your mom's business. Cut out Mom the Middleman and speak directly with your aunt. <BR/><BR/>MAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-238197560535024815.post-37124174439416072272008-11-21T12:10:00.000-08:002008-11-21T12:10:00.000-08:00Money given shouldn't go through another individua...Money given shouldn't go through another individual in any case- ever. Reach out to your aunt directly.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-238197560535024815.post-262828199551352162008-11-21T05:03:00.000-08:002008-11-21T05:03:00.000-08:00Wow. I agree with Nancy. It's your money and you...Wow. <BR/><BR/>I agree with Nancy. It's your money and you decide how to best help you Aunt. Would your Aunt be okay with the money coming directly from you or did she ask your Mom to keep her request quiet?<BR/><BR/>Kudos to you for seeing through all the family drama and keeping focussed on the main goal of supporting your Aunt.<BR/><BR/>You should be very proud of all your hard work and saving. I don't even know you and I'm proud of you. Keep it up!<BR/><BR/>Don't let the drama bring you down. If it makes you feel better, there is financial drama in every family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-238197560535024815.post-56016338768441329762008-11-20T18:59:00.000-08:002008-11-20T18:59:00.000-08:00Oh, I am so sorry to hear how you are being put in...Oh, I am so sorry to hear how you are being put in the middle. That is simply not right, for you, and I'm glad you correctly perceive it for the manipulation it is.<BR/><BR/>If you are savvy enough to have saved that much, a) Good for you! and b) Give yourself FULL PERMISSION to decide how YOU want to handle the situation, on your own, regardless of your parents. You were thinking of helping anyways, I think? Even if not, could you consider just going directly to your aunt, and making an arrangement directly with her? She may not be happy about the way your parents (your mom esp) are handling things in any case. You and your aunt are close. She would like funds for a worthy cause. You may - or may not- be willing to provide. I honestly think that since it's YOUR money involved ONLY YOU should be involved in how you handle this.<BR/><BR/>Having said that, as an outsider, I know there may be many more implications (eg. family dynamics) to consider. I'm sure you'll do what, in the end, is most empowering to you.<BR/><BR/>Again, huge congrats on being a saver, and having a generous spirit. The world needs more people like you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-238197560535024815.post-34668324983290060442008-11-20T18:49:00.000-08:002008-11-20T18:49:00.000-08:00I would suggest handing out the cheque directly to...I would suggest handing out the cheque directly to your aunt, without bringing your Mom into the picture. You should let your Aunt know that you love and want to help support her choices, not because your Mom asked you to, but because you've always wanted to. <BR/><BR/>this way, you Aunt will know you apreciate all that she's done and love her truly. And no matter how many games your Mom tries to play with you, she'll get the picture you couldn't care any less to be part of her plans. Just my two cents!<BR/><BR/>- TinaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-238197560535024815.post-67846097322919511892008-11-20T17:49:00.000-08:002008-11-20T17:49:00.000-08:00Call your Aunt directly and offer her the money, w...Call your Aunt directly and offer her the money, whether you pay tuition or rent or something like that... Your being played as a pawn in a game only know to your mother.... Run don't walk... You have every right to be frustrated but don't let her bring you down!its me, samhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03521920330817697784noreply@blogger.com